Dating in the victorian times
Married and older ladies, but no one who’d been divorced or had a previous marriage annulled, would also be presented at court as their social status changed following the same protocols, but not as débutantes, then they could attend court balls or functions.Note: While it was expected that débutantes of the aristocracy (including knights and baronets) would be presented at court during their coming out season, only daughters of the clergy, of military and naval officers, of physicians, and of barristers, were also eligible for this honour.Only a handful of girls met all the criteria in any given season.The bachelors and their families understood the impossibly high standards that were set, and many noble gentlemen married common girls, who had not yet been presented at court but carried themselves better.Débutante (French for female beginner) balls were a highlight, hosted at the grand houses of the aristocracy.Lord Byron referred to these galas as marriage marts, because it was the best venue for young ladies to encounter possible suitors.
By the end of June, London was so hot and smelly, everyone with a country estate would flee, but the coming sewer systems, and grand new neighbourhoods with improved wash rooms, would make the capital all the more bearable by the late 1860s.Some people did live into their eighties or nineties, but the masses passed away relatively young.By 1900 the life expectancy was forty-five, with one in seven children not surviving to their tenth birthday.) The Queen’s Drawingroom, ceremony of presentations, 31 March 1860, The Illustrated London News. Easter was on the 8th of April in 1860, so for some reason presentations were early on this year.There were very few upper-class public social venues in London open to both sexes.
An exception was Almack’s Assembly Rooms, which opened in 1765, and admitted both men and women.Victoria became queen at the age of 18 after the death of her uncle, William IV.She reigned for more than 60 years, longer than any other British monarch.However, there were numerous other girls coming out in any given year, some fabulously wealthy, who attended balls, parties, teas, &c, but weren’t presented to the Queen and didn’t attend court functions.