Rules for dating a younger guy
The more of an effort he puts into seeing you or doing things for you, the more invested in you he’ll become.
This is why being accommodating to bad behavior is actually harmful to creating a bond with the guy in the beginning.
Nobody is forcing you to be in a relationship with this guy and if he’s not putting in the effort to communicate with you, you’re going to be far better off filling your time with other ways to be happy (versus what many women do…
which is to stress over the guy more and more, which makes the guy even more of a fixation point, invests her in him more emotionally, etc.) I would highly encourage you to read the comments and discussions from different women who have experienced their guy not texting back.
You’re definitely not alone – as you can see, tons of women have experienced the “guy doesn’t text back” phenomenon.
Not only will you see a pattern, but you’ll also see tons of comments where Sabrina and I personally responded.
Rather, I’m recommending that you change how you think about things and, therefore, the needy behaviors and ways of acting naturally disappear. It’s believing that you “need” the other person to act a certain way, be a certain way, do specific things or say specific things… There’s nothing wrong with having preference for what you want and only settling for what you want. The problem with the needy mindset is that when you’re not getting what you want, you have a strong negative reaction because you think of his specific behavior as something you “need” in order to be OK… So bear in mind that this response to you is from the context that you’ve repeatedly brought this up as an issue and there’s been no change in his behavior.
If you’re always available to the guy, it’s only natural that he’ll expect you to be available whenever he feels like contacting you.
If your availability is limited (and therefore requires planning and coordination to reach you), then he will make an effort to set time aside for you and make solid plans with you (instead of contacting you only when it’s convenient for him). it’s a human thing – we only put effort into interactions that require it.
Any woman I’ve ever really cared for (and showed priority towards) didn’t settle for behavior that wasn’t what she wanted.
She didn’t put up with behavior that didn’t work for her – namely, if I left her hanging, I could be sure she’d make other plans. Nobody wants to put up with a person who’s argumentative, unpleasant or adversarial for no reason.
In general, this is a very disempowering way to live life – you are essentially shackling your happiness to the actions of a guy (and at the moment, it doesn’t even seem like he’s doing a good job delivering on what you want him to do.) Something to consider is if it’s just a matter of your guy’s texting habits – take our “What’s His ‘Texting Style’ Mean?